Sometimes I get in a place where I’m just blah. And I don’t know why exactly. Maybe I make up the story that life is boring and only going to get worse. However, I’m getting better at fixing it. I tell myself this. Borrowing from Rational Emotive Therapy, I say “Everything is exactly the way it should be.” That’s not to say, it should stay this way, but things are the way they are for a reason, even when lonely, as David Wilcox will tell you. I’m not talking about some philosophical reason but more related to cause and effect. I am here, in this situation, because I made it happen. My thoughts, my beliefs, then my actions, reactions, habits and choices have me right where I am.
It is up to me to to tweak, adjust, change or get rid of unwanted effects.
So how do I develop the awareness of what needs tweaking?. I’m experimenting with Martin Seligman’s formula for living a wholehearted live. So I’ll use his five categories, and willing to bet that whatever negative feelings are housed in a story or behavior in one of those five categories. https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/perma-model/
Positive Emotions. I ask myself…am I having enjoying and fun, laughter in my life, and enough of it. If not, then what can I change to make it happen.
Engagement: What do I get lost in? What is so engaging that hours fly by?
Relationships: Am I getting along with the significant others in my life?
Meaning and Purpose: Do I feel like my life, or even daily activities have real purpose that are making a difference in the world?
Achievement: What am I working on where I see achievement?
I hope you give this some thought. I’m open to feedback.